Received Text: "I Like You and I think you should be my Girlfriend"

Interesting to receive this text after only getting to know the guy over three weeks.

We had a beer at the pub one time. We went for a walk about town another. We went for a drive another. We went up North and hit up a cottage last weekend. Typically, four dates is when you should know what you want out of the person. However, we both started hanging out and made it clear there was no pressure, so I had no expectations. He was fun to hang out with - but I would hardly call the drive and walk-about dates. But everyone has their own definition I guess. Still, whatever happened to courting?

I am leaving for my Surf Camp vacation in Costa Rica this Friday. He decides to text me his new found intention yesterday?? I can't help but think timing was of the essence for him. I could be wrong. Too coincidental though...

So I text him back saying that I need a bit more time before considering that - how I like him too, but I've been jumping into relationships quick and they always end terribly. How I should take the time to get to know the person.

Then I sit back and start remembering our conversations... He refers to 'Us' as a 'Couple' and had said 'if we move in together' a few times. He was the one who kept saying he 'didn't want to define our relationship', whatever it was. I had an idea where it was going in his mind based on his choice of words - I just didn't think he'd come out with it so quick.

He called me last night and I reiterated how time is important in getting to know someone. How he has a lot of unresolved things in his life (a crazy ex, a 9-year-old, going back to school and will be in school for 6 years). I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with a guy who has a kid. I certainly don't want to deal with a crazy ex of his. I have already kick-started my career. I want to buy a house in 2-3 years. I don't want to mould my life to his. He assures me I won't have to. That he wants to buy a house soon too. That I won't be the kid's mom. That he will deal with the ex. Meh - easy to say...

Ok, clearly, I've appeared to have made my decision about how he's not an ideal candidate. I'm not going to firmly close the door yet. It's not fair to. I have a lot of fun with him and he seems like a good guy. So far.