It's a coping tool when a man can't be a man and you have to sort things out yourself.
He took enough of my kindness in stride; along with my time, energy, money and other things. Instead of being communicative, he ignored me for two weeks and I figured it was over. Something an ex-boyfriend did to me about three years ago.Cowards - the lot of them. He even turned off the answering machine so I couldn't leave him a voicemail. I had no way to contact him except Facebook or Skype and he would never respond. I was livid to say the least.
Initially, I had wanted to try to maintain the option of being friends, or at least remaining approachable to him when he does finally decide to open up. He did seem like a decent guy going through a rough time. But that doesn't give a guy any reason to act like an asshole and ignore his doting girlfriend.
I started thinking about how his last relationship ended ... He left. No discussion. He just ditched her two months before the wedding. Now, maybe he had his reasons to run. Still - a real man would have the guts to deal with it properly and talk to her. I actually found her on Pinterest. She still has the board up of all the wedding plans she had for them. Poor girl. How could I have been so blind to his ill behaviour?
And why the fuck should our ending be so different?
I'm not sure what upsets me more:
a) The fact that I was so absolutely and utterly wrong in thinking he was a true man in every sense of the word.
b) The fact that I had no closure whatsoever and was left dangling in the wind like a hopeful puppet.
Sometimes people don't deserve you to be the bigger person.
Cutting up his sweater and shredding the bracelet he gave me really helped with the closure part.
Cutting up pictures also helps.
And going on new exciting sexy dates really helps.
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