Just when you thought you knew a person...

This morning I received a very disappointing email from a male friend I went out with Saturday night:

Good Morning
Thought about you this morning and wanted to say hi and see how your week is going. Any plans for the long weekend? I assume Buffalo will be part of those plans.

You said something that I heard, but didn't question and didn't understand later.  You said your friend currently can't come to Canada. Is that true? Passport problem?
Didn't you say he was in Afghanistan? So he can go there, but not come here? Hmmm.

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and tell you again, despite you telling me you're not attracted to me, I still had a wonderful time Sat night.
R



For the sake of privacy, lets call this person Ross.

On Saturday, Ross and I met up at a charity social event and had a fun time meeting new people, joking around and catching up. He is 20 years older than me, but we still had a lot to talk about. I told him all about this new guy I am seeing; how happy I am with him, how everything about him is amazing and we have so much fun together. And yes, I did mention that he was a Marine and yes, he doesn't yet have documentation to come to Canada yet, but he's working a lot and we'll figure that stuff out in time.

Reading Ross's email this morning pissed me off so much that I went outside for a walk. And the whole time I just bulldozed down the street fuming. I don't like how he referred to my new guy simply as a 'friend' and also I don't like what Ross's email was implying.

I wrote back curtly, stating that Marines need only provide proof of citizenship to be a recruit and that Marines do not need a passport to be deployed. I didn't add anything else.




When the night at the charity event fizzled out and I was growing bored, Ross suggested we go to an old school jazz bar (where people do the Charleston and stuff - it's a super fun place called the Reservoir Lounge.) We went and had a great time. But then Ross boldly asked if I would go back with him to his place for some fun. I thought he was joking, but quickly realized he was serious. Ew.

I reiterated that I have a love interest. Ross didn't like that reasoning. Why the crap don't guys respect that?

So I said I wasn't interested. Ross still wanted more of a reason, I don't know why. I thought he was my friend and was so disappointed he was going down this road. This was totally crossing the line. Why did I ever go out that night? I wish my friend Erin wasn't sick and that she came along too. Then he would have been distracted by her.

"Fine. I am not attracted to you." I finished my water and left. Of course, he walked me to the subway. When I got home I was relieved. I was hoping never to address that awkward moment ever again, but then his blatantly assuming email reminded me of it.



Perhaps I give people too many chances. We are human, we can be selfish sometimes and need to learn where to stop pushing to get what we want. But it appears that Ross is trying to cast doubt in my mind and there is no room in my life for people like that. Clearly he doesn't respect me or my decisions.


It's just such a downer.