Thursday, January 19, 2012
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Received Text: "I Like You and I think you should be my Girlfriend"
Interesting to receive this text after only getting to know the guy over three weeks.
We had a beer at the pub one time. We went for a walk about town another. We went for a drive another. We went up North and hit up a cottage last weekend. Typically, four dates is when you should know what you want out of the person. However, we both started hanging out and made it clear there was no pressure, so I had no expectations. He was fun to hang out with - but I would hardly call the drive and walk-about dates. But everyone has their own definition I guess. Still, whatever happened to courting?
I am leaving for my Surf Camp vacation in Costa Rica this Friday. He decides to text me his new found intention yesterday?? I can't help but think timing was of the essence for him. I could be wrong. Too coincidental though...
So I text him back saying that I need a bit more time before considering that - how I like him too, but I've been jumping into relationships quick and they always end terribly. How I should take the time to get to know the person.
Then I sit back and start remembering our conversations... He refers to 'Us' as a 'Couple' and had said 'if we move in together' a few times. He was the one who kept saying he 'didn't want to define our relationship', whatever it was. I had an idea where it was going in his mind based on his choice of words - I just didn't think he'd come out with it so quick.
He called me last night and I reiterated how time is important in getting to know someone. How he has a lot of unresolved things in his life (a crazy ex, a 9-year-old, going back to school and will be in school for 6 years). I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with a guy who has a kid. I certainly don't want to deal with a crazy ex of his. I have already kick-started my career. I want to buy a house in 2-3 years. I don't want to mould my life to his. He assures me I won't have to. That he wants to buy a house soon too. That I won't be the kid's mom. That he will deal with the ex. Meh - easy to say...
Ok, clearly, I've appeared to have made my decision about how he's not an ideal candidate. I'm not going to firmly close the door yet. It's not fair to. I have a lot of fun with him and he seems like a good guy. So far.
We had a beer at the pub one time. We went for a walk about town another. We went for a drive another. We went up North and hit up a cottage last weekend. Typically, four dates is when you should know what you want out of the person. However, we both started hanging out and made it clear there was no pressure, so I had no expectations. He was fun to hang out with - but I would hardly call the drive and walk-about dates. But everyone has their own definition I guess. Still, whatever happened to courting?
I am leaving for my Surf Camp vacation in Costa Rica this Friday. He decides to text me his new found intention yesterday?? I can't help but think timing was of the essence for him. I could be wrong. Too coincidental though...
So I text him back saying that I need a bit more time before considering that - how I like him too, but I've been jumping into relationships quick and they always end terribly. How I should take the time to get to know the person.
Then I sit back and start remembering our conversations... He refers to 'Us' as a 'Couple' and had said 'if we move in together' a few times. He was the one who kept saying he 'didn't want to define our relationship', whatever it was. I had an idea where it was going in his mind based on his choice of words - I just didn't think he'd come out with it so quick.
He called me last night and I reiterated how time is important in getting to know someone. How he has a lot of unresolved things in his life (a crazy ex, a 9-year-old, going back to school and will be in school for 6 years). I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with a guy who has a kid. I certainly don't want to deal with a crazy ex of his. I have already kick-started my career. I want to buy a house in 2-3 years. I don't want to mould my life to his. He assures me I won't have to. That he wants to buy a house soon too. That I won't be the kid's mom. That he will deal with the ex. Meh - easy to say...
Ok, clearly, I've appeared to have made my decision about how he's not an ideal candidate. I'm not going to firmly close the door yet. It's not fair to. I have a lot of fun with him and he seems like a good guy. So far.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
My Post Xmas walk in 'Ssauga - still no snow
I forgot to upload this a few weeks ago. I took this video while walking home from Winners on Boxing Day while in Mississauga. I couldn't believe there was no snow. Also couldn't believe there were no crowds at Winners, lol. Thank you Daniel for my gift certificate!
Friday, January 6, 2012
Is That Kosher?
When a guy asked if he could make me dinner at his place, I found that quite endearing.
However, when he asked me to help him make his bed, because he just finished doing his laundry when I arrived, I politely refused.
He asked again. I refused again. I leaned against his doorframe with my arms crossed and a crooked grin plastered on my face. Was this guy for real?
"See, I'm all about giving when I'm in a relationship, so I would expect my partner to help me."
I felt compelled to tell him we weren't in a relationship of any sort. Instead, I insisted on not helping, which compelled him to insult the religion I was born into. Odd for a Jew to try to guilt a born Catholic turned Spiritualist.
I told him I was leaving. He insisted I stay. He apologized, said it had been a while since he cooked for anyone and he was nervous.
Fine. But if he fucks up again, I'm gone.
Dinner was actually amazing and conversation was light and fun. But then he got too touchy, so I had to leave. He offered to drive me home. About 1/3 of the way his muffler dropped from the car and was dragging behind us. He got so miffed, that he dumped me at a subway station - after having just said that he would have given me cab money if he wasn't able to drive me home. No cab money.
No more chances!!
I texted him this morning saying we wouldn't work. He responded very positively which makes me relieved there will be no drama (hey, you never know!) At least I got a loverly tilapia dinner out of the inconvenience!
However, when he asked me to help him make his bed, because he just finished doing his laundry when I arrived, I politely refused.
He asked again. I refused again. I leaned against his doorframe with my arms crossed and a crooked grin plastered on my face. Was this guy for real?
"See, I'm all about giving when I'm in a relationship, so I would expect my partner to help me."
I felt compelled to tell him we weren't in a relationship of any sort. Instead, I insisted on not helping, which compelled him to insult the religion I was born into. Odd for a Jew to try to guilt a born Catholic turned Spiritualist.
I told him I was leaving. He insisted I stay. He apologized, said it had been a while since he cooked for anyone and he was nervous.
Fine. But if he fucks up again, I'm gone.
Dinner was actually amazing and conversation was light and fun. But then he got too touchy, so I had to leave. He offered to drive me home. About 1/3 of the way his muffler dropped from the car and was dragging behind us. He got so miffed, that he dumped me at a subway station - after having just said that he would have given me cab money if he wasn't able to drive me home. No cab money.
No more chances!!
I texted him this morning saying we wouldn't work. He responded very positively which makes me relieved there will be no drama (hey, you never know!) At least I got a loverly tilapia dinner out of the inconvenience!
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Starbucks tunage is more often than not, pretty interesting
Even if you don't like the SB tunes, you have to admit that they are pretty different than what you would normally hear on the radio. It took me a couple listens before I started digging this Jesse Thomas tune called 'It's You I Want.'
My fave part of this tune 'Love is Won' by Lia Ices is at 1:50.
When I first heard that tune, I HATED it! And now I have the NIN discography and have seen them 3 times. Funny how things change...
...And just a little but more by the crude Canadian Princess Peaches:
Argh. My lats are killing me from the Flexi-Bar workout yesterday!
And I promied my new bud I'd go rock climbing. *sigh*
My fave part of this tune 'Love is Won' by Lia Ices is at 1:50.
Now for something a little more vulgar:
NOT a SB tune fyi, lol.
When I first heard that tune, I HATED it! And now I have the NIN discography and have seen them 3 times. Funny how things change...
...And just a little but more by the crude Canadian Princess Peaches:
Argh. My lats are killing me from the Flexi-Bar workout yesterday!
And I promied my new bud I'd go rock climbing. *sigh*
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
My rock climbing reverend
So a new friend of mine asked if I wanted to go rock climbing with him tomorrow at Rock Oasis.
I met him at a Christmas party my roomie invited me to a couple weeks ago. He is very cute - albeit I totally thought he was gay when we first met. His requests to make out didn't have me thrown. Gay guys always wanna make out with me for some reason. Thankfully, he didn't have a fit when I said I thought he was gay - 'I get that a lot.' So I kissed him anyway - why the hell not.
Well, he was really good. Really good. And he was hammered, which confused me because people usually get sloppy when drunk at 1:30am on a Friday night.
He nearly followed me out of his condo when I left his party. I had to beg him to put me down. He said he didn't care about leaving his own party; that he just wanted to ravage me. I honestly had to laugh. I love men for their candor. I assured him we'd hang out again if the need struck. Lo and behold, he texted asking if I wanted to go rock climbing tomorrow after work.
Sure, it's probably a ploy to look at my booty as I scale the wall - which I'm totally fine with. At least I'll be doing something. Usually when people stare, I'm at the bus stop or standing at the bar waiting for my martini. This is gonna be a great core w/o. It'll help prep me for my surf camp trip!
So I hopped onto YouTube to find a video about basics since I've only climbed once - and that was 5 years ago. Holy crap, the host of the video (Bea) is the reverend of my Spiritualist church (Britten Memorial):
Small world. :)
I met him at a Christmas party my roomie invited me to a couple weeks ago. He is very cute - albeit I totally thought he was gay when we first met. His requests to make out didn't have me thrown. Gay guys always wanna make out with me for some reason. Thankfully, he didn't have a fit when I said I thought he was gay - 'I get that a lot.' So I kissed him anyway - why the hell not.
Well, he was really good. Really good. And he was hammered, which confused me because people usually get sloppy when drunk at 1:30am on a Friday night.
He nearly followed me out of his condo when I left his party. I had to beg him to put me down. He said he didn't care about leaving his own party; that he just wanted to ravage me. I honestly had to laugh. I love men for their candor. I assured him we'd hang out again if the need struck. Lo and behold, he texted asking if I wanted to go rock climbing tomorrow after work.
Sure, it's probably a ploy to look at my booty as I scale the wall - which I'm totally fine with. At least I'll be doing something. Usually when people stare, I'm at the bus stop or standing at the bar waiting for my martini. This is gonna be a great core w/o. It'll help prep me for my surf camp trip!
So I hopped onto YouTube to find a video about basics since I've only climbed once - and that was 5 years ago. Holy crap, the host of the video (Bea) is the reverend of my Spiritualist church (Britten Memorial):
Small world. :)
Gotta love compliments from strangers!
When a stranger goes out of his or her way to say something positive to another human being, it always means something.
It doesn't necessarily mean more than a compliment from a friend or loved one, but it certainly comes close to meaning as much! Because when a person you have no immediate connection to goes out of their way to say something positive, it is pure goodness and openness without want of reciprocation. It makes me feel so much brighter!
Lately, I have been encountering such wonderful energy from people. Usually over the holidays people tend to get wrapped up in themselves and fail to observe what is around them. For some reason I have been placed in a good spot around a particular group of positive people, or perhaps people have grown more positive and I have finally come to realize it.
Thank you for complimenting my specs, my eye make-up, the ring my brother gave me for Christmas, my uber sparkly BCBG skull earbuds, and everything else.
And here is a super cool song that has absolutely no relevance to this story. :)
It doesn't necessarily mean more than a compliment from a friend or loved one, but it certainly comes close to meaning as much! Because when a person you have no immediate connection to goes out of their way to say something positive, it is pure goodness and openness without want of reciprocation. It makes me feel so much brighter!
Lately, I have been encountering such wonderful energy from people. Usually over the holidays people tend to get wrapped up in themselves and fail to observe what is around them. For some reason I have been placed in a good spot around a particular group of positive people, or perhaps people have grown more positive and I have finally come to realize it.
Thank you for complimenting my specs, my eye make-up, the ring my brother gave me for Christmas, my uber sparkly BCBG skull earbuds, and everything else.
And here is a super cool song that has absolutely no relevance to this story. :)
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Wee!
LOOOVIN' this remix of a Florence & The Machine tune:
No Light, No Light (Breakage Remix)
Facebook is great. One friend posts a Dubstep mix of Adele, then another had posted this tune and several comments later, my friends who don't know each other, are bonding over tunage. Makes me happeeeee!!!
No Light, No Light (Breakage Remix)
Facebook is great. One friend posts a Dubstep mix of Adele, then another had posted this tune and several comments later, my friends who don't know each other, are bonding over tunage. Makes me happeeeee!!!
New year, new rules for YOU!
Starting up the New Year with a laugh and important lesson!
Too often people receive attention from people they don't want. Be it a girl at a grocery store bashing into your cart or your friend's boyfriend's friend who won't leave you alone at a bar. This girl really has it down:
The key point she makes is that you have to NOT CARE about what other people think.
Too many people care abotu what other people think. Then they get screwed and wonder why. How about you take charge of what you really want and/or don't want?
Merry New Year :)
Too often people receive attention from people they don't want. Be it a girl at a grocery store bashing into your cart or your friend's boyfriend's friend who won't leave you alone at a bar. This girl really has it down:
The key point she makes is that you have to NOT CARE about what other people think.
Too many people care abotu what other people think. Then they get screwed and wonder why. How about you take charge of what you really want and/or don't want?
Merry New Year :)
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